This paper examines contemporary twenty-first century dating practices through a critical theoretical lens in order to expose the contradictions that help explain how subjects search for love today. While modern romance in the West has come to be understood as the outcome of individual choice, I argue that emerging technologies have fundamentally transformed the conditions under which romance is formed and experienced. Dating apps in particular seem to expand freedom by widening access while encouraging subjects to encounter one another through preselected categories and calculative forms of evaluation. Drawing on Theodor W. Adorno, I situate these late capitalist developments within his broader account of life in a damaged world, where social rationalities penetrate even the most intimate domains. I argue that identity thinking reduces the encounter with the other to legible, comparable traits, while reified subjectivity names the process through which individuals come to experience both themselves and others as objects among objects. Through this lens, subjects understand themselves as autonomous choosers even as they participate in systems that render them interchangeable and quantifiable, often reproducing these logics in a largely unreflective or passive manner. Practices organized around equivalence and optimization thus foreclose the possibility of encountering the nonidentical. In this sense, contemporary dating reveals a constrained, market friendly form of freedom, one that appears as free choice yet remains bound to the very logics that limit it. I end by suggesting that a more expansive account of freedom would require resisting abstract categorization and remaining open to forms of relation that unfold only in experience, gesturing toward a fragmentary materialist ethics of love.
Violeta Lopez Molina (Fri,) studied this question.