The Law, Dementia, and Sexuality—Is the Law Striking the Right Balance?

Abstract Background and Objectives English and Welsh laws require “contemporaneous” consent to sexual relations, often precluding “non-capacituos” people living with advanced dementia from these human interactions. Research Design and Methods The views of people living with dementia, carers, professionals, and over-55s were explored on implications of current laws on sexuality in dementia. Thirty-five participants from England were recruited through purposive selective sampling. Audio-taped semistructured interviews were transcribed and thematically analyzed with each stakeholder group coded separately. Results Common themes across stakeholders were (i) law reform needed due to their hammer-like effect ignoring the individual; (ii) dissonant theme of needing the law for protection; (iii) negative impact of denied intimacy on individuals and partners; (iv) support for Advance Decisions on Intimacy with caveats; (v) less support for involvement of Court of Protection and Powers of Attorney; (vi) call for review of capacity concept with support for an assent model. People living with dementia described shame and stigma associated with policing of their sexuality and perception of being singled out for protection and intrusion into their lives. For informal carers (mostly wives), the theme of “what about me” emerged, demonstrating that for the long-term partnered, this is a couple’s issue. Discussion and Implications Practical implications of this study include need to address ageism and ableism; human rights education for society and professionals; starting point of presumed capacity for sexual relations with consensus on how and when this should be rebutted; and care homes’ certification requirements should incorporate assessment of the relationship health of their residents.