Interaction dynamics of relational negotiation: Reconciliation versus termination of distressed relationships

In recent years, several researchers have proposed models of the stages or trajectories by which individuals disengage from personal relationships. Each model proposes a stage during which partners might negotiate the state of their relationship. Despite the decisive nature of these discussions, remarkably little research has investigated the specific interaction behaviors which couples display during this crucial phase in the disengagement process. Accordingly, this study compared the actual communication behavior of two sets of marital dyads. Subsequent to these interactions, one group of couples “repaired” and continued their marriage, while the other chose to terminate their relationship. The findings indicate that couples who terminated their marriage tended to display behaviors indicative of avoidance, indirectness, and decreased involvement, while couples who repaired their relationship exhibited patterns of behavior indicative of more directness and more involvement in the negotiations.