Beyond dichotomies: contesting cultural stereotypes through the lived experience of sexuality among Turkish-Dutch women

This article offers a critique of the dominant secular/sexual paradigm in the Netherlands by focusing on everyday experiences of sexuality among Turkish-Dutch women. A secular approach towards sexuality rests on the fictive duality of a sexually liberated, progressive majority Dutch and a conservative cultural 'Other'. This paper argues that despite scholarly work challenging the secular/framework within which minoritised women's sexuality is problematised, cultural stereotypes continue to persist in Dutch populist discourse and everyday life. Based on life story interviews conducted with eight women, it illustrates the specific ways in which normative expectations are imposed on minoritised women based on perceived religious or cultural differences. These expectations constitute a 'script' that is imbued with cultural stereotypes. Dissonant moments emerge when my interlocutors fail to conform to the 'script'. In contrast, when their choices validate these expectations, they are interpreted as a reflection of their 'cultural background' instead of being seen as instances of agentic behaviour. These processes further reify dichotomies in the form of sexually liberated and oppressed as the choices these women make are never seen as individual expressions of sexuality unless they openly contest these expectations.