“We followed their lead”: Exploring relational change and support among caregivers of transgender and gender diverse youth

Transgender and gender diverse youth and young adults (TGDY) experience higher mental health morbidity, including self-harm, suicide ideation, and suicide attempts, as compared to cisgender peers. Support from family members is associated with improved mental health outcomes for TGDY. However, little is known about the process that caregivers who consider themselves supportive undergo and how caregiver-youth relationships evolve through a TGDY's gender journey. Through a reflexive thematic analysis of 14 interviews conducted with caregivers of TGDY from April–July 2022, we sought to understand how caregivers who considered themselves supportive of TGDY navigated shifting relationships with themselves, their children, and their communities. Applying theories of Ambiguous Loss and Thriving Through Relationships, findings coalesced around several themes including reflecting on change, re-negotiating interpersonal relationships, and educating through relationships. The gender journeys of TGDY required caregivers to navigate relationships with self (feeling loss and wrestling with worry for their child), negotiate relationships with others (disclosing to extended family and social networks), and educate themselves and others through relationships (connecting through personal narratives from other families, parents supporting parents, learning to advocate for their child). The process of caregivers learning to support their children was facilitated through profound intrapersonal and interpersonal reflection, connection, and community. Understanding this process is important to inform educational interventions and programs that help caregivers learn to support and advocate effectively for TGDY.