On grief, fathering and the male role in men’s accounts of stillbirth

Stillbirth experiences are a traditionally under-researched area of health, with the limited research available focusing on women’s perspectives. Drawing on qualitative interviews with 12 men in Australia who have experienced stillbirth, this article explores how they engaged with their unborn and stillborn child as fathers and the perceived legitimacy of male grief. The results reveal the complex ways in which these men identify as fathers to their unborn and stillborn child; how they develop dynamic and ongoing relationships with their child post-stillbirth; and the problematic of expressing grief in the context of ‘the male role’. Our findings suggest cultural constructions of the ‘male role’ are both manifest and contested in the context of stillbirth, and that fathering and grief are situated within a highly gendered and relational dynamic. These findings suggest that further work is needed to explore and conceptualize the interplay of gender identity and bereavement for Australian men.