To Stay in or Leave an Abusive Relationship: Losses and Gains Experienced by Battered Filipino Women

The present study aimed to describe and analyze the losses and gains experienced by battered Filipino women as a result of their decision to stay in or leave an abusive relationship. In-depth, semistructured interviews were conducted with 60 battered women, 30 of the women were still living with their abusive husbands/partners and 30 have left their abusive husbands/partners. Results from the phenomenological data analysis of the qualitative data revealed that the women who stayed in and left their abusive partners experienced both losses and gains. For the women who stayed in an abusive relationship, they lost a sense of self, the opportunity for a better life, peace of mind, psychological well-being, and love for their partners. However, these women had the benefits of having a complete family and a partner to help raise their children. In contrast, despite not having a complete family or a partner to help them raise their children, women who left an abusive relationship gained back their sense of self, peace of mind, freedom, inner strength, and hope. Implications for counseling practice were discussed.