A study on Experience of Object Relations in Pastor’s early adulthood Children

This study explores the object relations experienced by pastor’s kid from pastoral families into early adulthood (ages 26-31). Using Colaizzi’s phenomenology with eight participants, the analysis revealed how their home environment, as an extension of the church, often resulted in a lack of accessible acceptance, fostering perfectionistic self-objects and discomfort in relationships. However, experiences like attending other churches, independence, and Christian fellowships facilitated awareness of their unique identities. Crucially, relationships that acknowledged their emotions provided new, safe object experiences, contrasting with previous hypervigilance. This enabled participants to confront their true feelings, heal inner wounds, and gain a sense of self. This research offers foundational insights into the object experiences of pastors’ children, aiming to inform counseling practices that support their healthy development.