This grounded theory study examines how 40 married couples (N = 80) successfully maintained sexual abstinence until marriage, focusing on the strategies, relational processes, and spiritual commitments that sustained this non-normative practice. Because premarital abstinence is statistically uncommon among African Americans, this sample functions as a critical case context—offering a high-contrast environment in which grounded theory can clearly illuminate the relational and spiritual mechanisms that support abstinence maintenance. Using in-depth individual and dyadic interviews, the study explores how couples upheld abstinence in contexts where it was often encouraged within religious settings yet rarely modeled by parents, mentors, or peers. Findings revealed four interrelated processes: (a) a shared spiritual “why” grounded in sacred meaning, (b) mutual commitment and accountability, (c) proactive boundary-setting and trigger management, and (d) grace-based resilience and recommitment after lapses. Together, these processes illustrate the Premarital Sexual Abstinence Sustainability Model through which couples co-manage temptation and align their behaviors with shared spiritual values. Despite limited examples in their communities, many participants reported becoming perceived role models within their families and faith settings, demonstrating how new behavioral templates emerge when social models are absent. Overall, as the first study of its kind to document how abstaining couples sustain their commitment and experience success, this work offers new implications for research, relationship education, counseling, and faith-based program development.
Emily N. McKnight (Wed,) studied this question.