Consistency and Change in Children’s Tattling on their Siblings: Children’s Perspectives on the Moral Rules and Procedures of Family Life

Children’s tattling on their siblings was observed in 39 families when children were 2‐ and 4‐ and 4‐ and 6‐years of age. Tattling was more frequent among older siblings, and increased across time, despite a corresponding decrease in sibling transgressions against one another and an increase in parents’ negative reactions to tattling. Tattling was largely truthful, implicit in form, and more likely to concern transgressions of what parents also regarded as more important standards. Among 4‐ and 6‐year‐olds, tattling was related to children’s negative behaviour to one another and equally likely when children faced ongoing conflict issues and when they merely wished to inform parents of sibling wrongdoing. Parents generally allowed their children to tattle on one another, rarely reprimanded tattlers, but responded to the information contained in the tattlers’ reports. The parents’ responses were related to the quality of their children’s tattling, but the children’s tattling was unrelated to the likelihood that parents would react either positively or negatively to it. Results are discussed in terms of the place of tattling within the family system, with emphasis on the children’s understanding of the implications of their parents’ involvement in their own disputes.