'Words We Use': A Narrative Inquiry Into How Terms of Endearment Contribute to the Relationship Microcosm

Romantic relationships have long fascinated academics and artists alike, as many attempt to unravel this social phenomenon. The twentieth century saw relationships conceptualised as microcosmic ‘mini-cultures’, formed and sustained by ‘symbols’ of communication and identity (Baxter, 1987, p. 262). ‘Idiomatic communication’ has been described as one of the most important symbols to contribute to relationship satisfaction (Hopper et al, 1981; Bell et al, 1987; Bruess & Pearson, 1993; Afful & Nartey, 2013). However, there is less research into how this trend manifests in the lived experiences of individuals. The present study aims to fill such a gap by investigating how young women experience terms of endearment in exclusive, committed, romantic relationships with male partners. Whilst previous research has acknowledged many forms of idiomatic communication within dyadic relationships, the present study will focus purely on ‘terms of endearment’ to facilitate the depth and detailed analysis of qualitative research. It will endeavour to answer the research question: How do terms of endearment contribute to the microcosm of a relationship? The data presented here shows a threefold contribution. The value of terms of endearment is realised through overt use, ritualistic use, and absence; all of which demonstrate the power of endearments in maintaining and stabilising the relationship microcosm.