Beyond straight/gay divide – a trinitarian vision of love

This book proposes a novel framework for understanding human relationships, particularly challenging the established conceptual categories of "straight" and "gay." Against the backdrop of global culture wars surrounding LGBTQ issues, the authors argue that the key distinction in human relationships is not sexual orientation, but rather whether relationships are dualistic or trinitarian in nature. A trinitarian relationship allows for the presence of a Third – be it a child, another loved one, the world, or the word.Drawing on Western queer film and fiction as a source material, the authors examine recurring motifs in homosexual experience, identifying patterns that suggest a difficulty in recognizing the partner as the Other in love. The book posits that this difficulty stems from the breakdown of trinitarian love experiences, particularly in early family relationships. The authors introduce the concept of duity – a protective structure where only one subject truly exists, and love becomes an act of merging rather than relating to an independent Other.Finally, this book develops a theory of sex as incarnation – an event that transforms a person in unpredictable ways. While avoiding normative judgments, the authors examine how the shift from trinitarian to dualistic structures relates to significant cultural changes in the twentieth century, including the normalization of divorce and contraception. The book aims to provoke thoughtful discussion about the nature of human relationships while remaining sensitive to individual freedoms and choices in matters of love and sexuality.