People Same-Sex Attracted: A Study of Their Journeys

This is a qualitative study of people who are same-sex-attracted (SSA) in Hong Kong. Thirty self-identifying LGB persons were interviewed in person or by phone. The majority have attachment injury/loss due to the absence of their fathers or adverse experiences induced by the fathers. Sexual identity development suggests fluidity as many participants dated bisexually, some had never engaged in SSA sexual behavior, and a small number had never dated in person. Different from previous studies, some were mixed-orientation married, and over half were embraced by the church community and attained a renewed understanding of their faith. Those who went through counseling found working with their concerns over self-concept, work, school, family, health, etc. helpful. The acceptance, bonding, and long-term support from family members, heterosexual spouses, pastors, and support group members are important to reduce their stress, and to provide the space and time they need to find a suitable life path. This study has provided a bigger picture in understanding the different journeys of people with SSA which are complicated, involving suffering and discrimination, and opportunities for growth and choices. Voices of those who wish to manage their unwanted SSA feelings or behavior for various reasons were heard. As the sample size of 23 males and 7 females was small, and recruitment of non-religious persons was not favorable, findings cannot be generalized. Further research is needed to understand more about those who opted to stay with SSA.