“Feminine” Heterosexual Men: Subverting Heteropatriarchal Sexual Scripts?

Little is known about the sexual lives of “feminine” heterosexual men (i.e., men who eschew traditional rigid “masculine” gender roles in favor of more stereotypically “feminine” gender roles and characteristics). Based on an analysis of gender and sexuality discourse, mostly from social psychology, this paper proposes a model of the sexual subjectivity of the feminine heterosexual man. This model suggests that these men may find it difficult to attract a partner and maintain satisfying sexual relationships, but once established they appear to build strong relationships. This conceptualization proposes that feminine heterosexual men subvert overly restrictive heteropatriarchal sexual scripts, freeing both traditional and nontraditional men to explore ways of being sexual with women outside a dominant-submissive dialectic.