Games in Black Male/Female Relationships

As we analyze Black male/female relationships, we find that there are numerous negative interpersonal relationship played that are destructive to sustaining a positive and healthy relationship. Most often, these games people play are responsible for the disintegration and disunity existing in Black male/ female relationships. Eric Berne, in his book Games People Play (1964) defines as a recurring set of transactions, often repetitions, superficially plausible, with a concealed motivation (conscious or unconscious) toward a hidden payoff. In a more colloquial term, he defines as a series of moves with a snare or gimmick. It is pertinent to emphasize that the played may be conscious or unconscious. That is, individuals may not be consciously aware of the they may be playing, and may be resistant to having those brought to consciousness by the nonplayer. Unconscious are probably the most destructive, in that the player is not aware of the unmet need being aroused, and those unconscious drives are brought into the relationship from early childhood relationships with parents and others.