Mediation as an Alternative Solution for The Islamic Family in Indonesia

Every married person wants to have a good life. A successful marriage leads to a long-lasting and prosperous family, as stated in Law No. 1 of 1974 concerning Marriage. Although the goal and concept of marriage are so ideal, not many couples can realize it. Marital relationships in ongoing crises will result in losses. Thus, Islam opens the emergency door and provides a way out by allowing divorce. Divorce can only be done in front of the Religious Court after the respective Religious Court has attempted and failed to reconcile (Mediation) both parties. The mediator determines the efficiency of conflict resolution processes; to guide conflicting parties, mediators must have certain skills and prior expertise in communication and mediation. This study uses a qualitative method with a descriptive, explanatory nature. The data for this research was obtained through documentation using written data. The results show that moderators can make several efforts: efforts in negotiation, providing tausiah (sermons), reminding about the past (Nostalgia), informing about the impacts of divorce, digging into main issues, the language used by a mediator, strategies within interpretation/reframing (wording), facilitation technique, tension-reducing skills, closing mediation session, and designing settlement formulating proposals.