Emotional Regulation as Relational Infrastructure: A Living Systems Perspective on the Capacity to Be Alone and Collective Care

In response to escalating global crises and widespread emotional distress, this paper advances a novel integrative framework that reconceptualizes emotional regulation as a relational public infrastructure essential for societal resilience. While traditional models treat emotional regulation as an individual psychological trait, we challenge this paradigm by repositioning it as a systemic capacity grounded in a psychodynamic living systems model. We argue that early caregiving experiences do not merely influence private development but form a foundational “affective infrastructure” that determines long-term social stability. Through this lens, the capacity to be alone is redefined from a solitary milestone to a relationally enabled skill that facilitates collective autonomy and prevents social polarization. We posit that when these relational fields are destabilized by inequality, the resulting dysregulation is a systemic failure rather than an individual deficit. The paper concludes by advocating for a normative shift in public health, treating emotional well-being as a public good cultivated through institutional systems of attunement. This perspective offers a timely and urgent vision for fostering inclusive, cooperative, and emotionally robust futures.